Bits of wisdom from a 24 year-old

I am 24 years old today. Today, I am 24 years old. Hmm, maybe if I keep saying it I’ll start to believe it. Doubtful. Anyways, I have two choices: I can cry and wallow in self pity as I think of all the things I have yet to accomplish, or I can eat cake (from Cocoa Locale no less), and share some of the wisdom I’ve gained during my time on this planet. You’ve probably heard some, or most of it before, but in the event that you haven’t, perhaps I can spare you some of the mistakes I’ve made while helping to enrich your lives (I can’t believe I just wrote that). Be forewarned, there will be plenty of cheesiness so grab your barf bag in advance. Here we go…

1. Don’t skimp on quality shoes or a good haircut. Both can make or break a woman and you don’t want to be a broken woman now do you? Come to think of it, the same applies for men too.

2. Listen to your parents and older siblings as they might actually know a thing or two about life considering they’ve been alive longer. Try to learn from their mistakes and achievements and make an effort (if/when possible) to foster bonds with them and other members of your family. At the end of the day, family is the MOST important thing.

3. It’s better to have a few great friends than a lot of so-so friends. If you find your so-so friends aren’t adding anything to your life and are actually keeping you from building stronger relationships with the friends who are always there for you (well almost always, nobody’s perfect), then bid them adieu. Remember, it’s about quality and not quantity.

4.  Don’t go to an esthetician, masseuse, or any service professional for that matter without a referral or some thorough research. The last thing you want is to end up with a toe fungus and one pant-leg shorter than the other.

5. Don’t squeeze pimples! If you want to know how to properly pop a pimple, watch this video from Dr. Oz.
http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Dr-Oz-Demonstrates-How-to-Properly-Pop-a-Pimple-Video 

6. Admitting you need help and asking for it isn’t a sign of weakness – quite the opposite actually. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to lean on your loved ones during hard times and/or to seek professional help. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE goes through rough times and if people aren’t willing to be there for you when you’re not at your best – to hell with them.

7. Comparing yourself to others is a recipe for disaster. For example: “everyone has a boyfriend and I don’t”. First of all, that’s factually incorrect, second of all, it only exacerbates the problem. In grade one I learnt that everyone is different, not better or worse, just different, and today it’s something I have to remind myself of regularly. Besides, I whole heartedly believe everything happens for a reason. Wishful thinking?

8. No matter the situation, always be yourself. One of the best compliments I’ve ever received was when a good friend said to me: “no matter what, you’re always Val”. When I thought about it I realized it’s true, and I felt proud to not have changed who I am so that others would like me more. I don’t like myself all the time – not even close, but push comes to shove I wouldn’t want to be anyone else. I simply wouldn’t know how to. I never was that good of an actress.

9.  Happy people are attractive people. Smile. If you have to fake it till you make it, that’s okay too.

10. Your body is the most important thing you have, so treat it as such. Don’t eat processed crap and eat organic and local food when possible. Be sure to incorporate plenty of fruits and vegetables and drink copious amounts of water. And exercise! Try different fitness classes, sports, trainers etc. to figure out what you like and then just do it. Shake things up from time to time. Don’t feel guilty about sometimes canceling plans because you have to exercise, taking care of our bodies and in turn our minds is the best thing we can do for ourselves. This also means getting enough sleep, and finding ways to cope with our stress and anxiety. Oh, and floss for God’s sake!

And one more for good luck: Stop obsessing over what others think of you; most of the time they’re too busy thinking about their own lives. I mean that in the best way possible.

My Favourite things: beauty products

For the second edition of my favourite things, I’ve decided to write about a topic I’m quite passionate about: beauty products. Part of my inspiration for this post comes from Into the Gloss, a beauty blog I’ve been obsessed with as of late. Bloggeuse Emily Weiss takes readers inside the beauty closets of models, fashion designers, editors, publicists, actors etc. who willingly reveal their grooming routines, beauty secrets and tips. Since I can remember, I’ve loved rummaging around my friends’ makeup bags and beauty product drawers and I can’t get enough of “what’s in their makeup bag” magazine features. I guess that makes me a beauty voyeur? You can also call me a product junkie, although it’s not so much that I like wearing lots of makeup (I don’t!) or that I like using a plethora of creams, oils, hair gunk etc. On the contrary, I’m actually the type of product junkie that researches and buys a lot of beauty items in search of that one stand-out item purchase will make my primping routine that much simpler. You might then say I’m a high maintenance gal desperately seeking to be low maintenance, or medium maintenance at the very least (let’s be realistic here).

I have tried so many different products over the years that my hope is you can benefit from my experiences (there have been many) and perhaps some of my favourite things will become yours too. After all, most of the products we use are a result of positive reviews from our friends, relatives, estheticians and publications we trust. Rest assured I have no endorsement deals (it sucks I know), so everything I write is the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help me God. I wish I was like Oprah and could give all this stuff away, but alas…

Here are 10 of my favs, I have many, many, many more: 

1. Clinique Acne Solutions Spot Treatment Gel $14.50 U.S.
I have been a devotee of this pimple gel with salicylic acid for several years now, and I know I can count on it to banish the most unsightly of spots without over-drying my already very dry skin. It also goes on invisible so no one but you has to know.

2. Laura Mercier Tinted Moisturizer SPF 20 $42 U.S.
Available in regular, oil-free and illuminating, this tinted moisturizer has somewhat of a cult following and it’s no surprise because it’s just that great. I’m seriously addicted to the regular version (that dry skin again) because it covers exactly what needs to be covered, yet looks completely natural and gives my pale skin a subtle glow so as not to frighten poor passerbys. And how great is it that it has SPF 20?! FYI: I apply it over my Cetaphil moisturizer, but some people find they don’t need to moisturize first.

3. Laura Mercier Secret Concealer $22 U.S.
I’m either belligerently drunk or at the gym if you catch me without any under-eye concealer on. The creamy texture of this particular beauty-savior means it’s both thick enough to cover my dark circles and easy to blend in.

4. Aveda Phomollient Styling Foam with honey $16 U.S.
If like me you have fine hair, you’ve probably bought your fair share of volumizers that don’t deliver on their promise and make hair look flat. Aveda’s Phomollient Styling Foam, however, is so lightweight it provides that ellusive boost and shine we’re all craving. Plus, since all the brand’s products are made using pure flower and plant essences – it smells like nature and not like your grandmother’s toxic hairspray.

5. Bliss Lemon+Sage Body Butter Lite $29 U.S.
While I like a hint of fragrance on other people, I have yet to find a perfume whose smell I don’t abhor on my body. Go figure, right? Though I’ve always been drawn to citrusy aromas, never has my nose been as happy as when it caught a whiff of Bliss’s signature lemon+sage scent. I quickly snapped up the body lotion, albeit the “lite” version since the classic is too rich for me, and a beautiful and yummy smelling relationship was born.

6. Cetaphil Gentle Skin Cleanser + Cetaphil Moisturizing Lotion 
When I was under a lot of stress last year, my skin did not handle it well. At the time, I was using a high-end moisturizer and cleanser but my dermatologist told me to go back to my Cetaphil routine. Despite the Cetaphil cleaner and moisturizer smelling nowhere near as good as the products I was using then, or making my face feel as tingly– they helped get my skin back in order. In my humble opinion, for dry and sensitive skin like mine, Cetaphil is unbeatable.

7. Calendula Oil around $10 for small bottle
After I squeeze a zit (bad Val, bad), I get a lovely little scar that likes to linger, leaving faint reminders of what once was. Or sometimes, when I’m really lucky, I get random red splotches on my face. Nice.  Upon my mother’s suggestion, I purchased a small bottle of Calendula oil at the health food store and dabbed some on my red marks. Calendula is a flower that’s said to have many medicinal properties, including the use of its oil to sooth skin inflammations. By morning, I could see a visible difference and I liked the thought of putting something so natural on my face. In fact, Kiel’s makes a Calendula Herbal Extract Alcohol-Free Toner I’ve been meaning to try.

8. Nars The Multiple in Riviera $46 U.S. 
When I’m craving that dewy summer look, all I have to do is rub a little Nars The Multiple on my cheeks and voila  – I’m magically luminous. I like to use the pinky “Riviera” shade as a blush, but this product comes in 13 other shades and can be used on eyes, lips and the body as well. It’s ideal for travel as it unlike powder, it won’t crack, and it simplifies any beauty routine by not requiring a brush.

9. Laura Mercier Caviar Stick Eye Colour $24 U.S. 
A new product from one of my favourite makeup brands, the Caviar Stick comes in 12 colours and makes an ideal eye-liner and shadow. I applied some of the creamy, easy to blend stick in “Steel” (a charcoal) on my entire lid, rubbed it in and added a little black eyeliner and mascara to create a smoky- eye look that normally takes me twice as long.

10. Aveda Damage Remedy Intensive Restructuring Treatment $29 U.S.
When an innocent appointment for a wash-out gloss suddenly turned into an unsightly permanent dye job that turned into numerous attempts to hit edit undo – my hair was in a state of emergency. Dry, and lacking its usual luster, my hairdresser suggested an Aveda treatment with quinoa protein. It took only several times of leaving it in my hair for approximately five minutes for me to see my hair CPR was working. I now use it once a week for maintenance.

5 more favourites: Clean & Clear Oil-Absorbing Sheets, St. Ives Gentle Exfoliating Apricot Scrub, Chanel Imitable Intense Mascara in “Black”, Chanel Rouge Coco Lipstick in “Cambon” and Clinique Bottom Lash Mascara.

Color By NUDA pulls out all the stops to mark nine years of great hair

A smart individual once said “hair is everything”, and those of us who have had a great haircut, or worse – a terrible chop, know this couldn’t be more true. Fortunately, for the last couple of years, I have been getting excellent haircuts and blowdrys at Color By NUDA. Today, the acclaimed Montreal hair salon and spa celebrates its ninth anniversary with a major bash that will feature a live DJ, food provided by local favourites Leméac and Bice, makeup demonstrations from a renowned international makeup artist with his own line of luxury brushes, as well as the presentation of a unique brand of “champagne vodka” that has yet to become available in Canada. The evening’s main attraction, however, is the launch of an art book showcasing the works of famous fashion photographers (Maude Arseneault, Brian Ypperciel, Donat, Richard Bernardin and Max Abadian) whose images have graced the pages of publications like Elle and FASHION. Days before the party, I sat down with my amazing hairdresser a.k.a. NUDA owner and senior stylist Leroy Williams, to talk about the big event, his twenty plus years in the business, and everything else hair related.
NUDA owner and senior stylist Leroy Williams in action
It seems a little strange celebrating a nine year anniversary as opposed to a ten year anniversary. Why this party now?
It’s actually a re-launch of the salon based on the fact that there was construction in front of the door for six months. We want to re-promote the salon. We still don’t have the same voice we had on Greene Ave. (the salon moved to the Golden Square Mile three years ago), in the sense that a lot of people here aren’t aware of who we are. They see us but they don’t know our philosophy, or how good we are. It’s sort of like a fresh start for us. We renovated the salon, redid the floors and sinks, and invested some more money. This party is a really huge investment for us. It’s a re-launch to get people to know we are here, to know that we are here to stay, and that we survived the worst, and that our philosophy is still the same. It’s also our way of saying thank you to the customers that have stuck with us throughout the construction and the move from Greene Ave., because without them we wouldn’t have been able to make it to nine years.

What made you decide to make the move from Greene Ave. to the Golden Square Mile?
We were there for six years and had plateaud. We also wanted a ground floor location. There are some negatives and positives. On Greene we had really strong high end customer base, but the problem was that there are so many salons in a small area that at a certain point we had plateaud. Everyone was kind of split sharing the same customer. Hiring stylists became difficult and growing our customer base became difficult, so we had to think about how we want to grow the salon for the next 10-15 years. We did the research and found out there’s a lot going on here; there’s a lot more traffic. It has worked to our advantage because we’ve managed to increase our client base and have been able to attract more stylists since we’ve been here. But then the construction happened…

How is the art book connected to the re-launch of the salon?
The book is important because it’s part of the look and inspiration for the salon. It will help us build up our brand by letting people see who we are and what we’re about. We are a fashion salon and our history is rooted in fashion and the influence of fashion stylists, makeup artists, hairdressers and photographers who we work with on photo shoots, runway shows, fashion campaigns etc. We’ve been working on the book for the last three months. I did ninety per cent of the hair and makeup, and the photographers got carte blanche in doing work that would represent them. Getting these five photographers together was extremely complicated; they’re extremely busy and it’s the first time that any publication will feature these five people under one umbrella.

As a salon that’s greatly influenced by fashion, do you think that customers should cut/style their hair according to the latest trends?
No. I believe that as hairdressers we should listen to our customers and try to find ways to communicate to them what the latest trends are while still respecting their ideals. We need to keep up with trends so we can make recommendations and keep our customers looking up-to-date, but things like budget, lifestyle, maintenance, and facial shape are also important.

On the subject of trends, what styles are we seeing for men and women right now?
One of the trends that I like that I’m seeing people feel excited about is longer hair for men. We had the shorter hair trend where the sides are super short and the top is longer, but now we’re seeing men are growing their hair and it’s more pushed back with greater movement. The business men are different from the younger men. Business men want to come in and get out, and they want things that are conducive to their lifestyle and work. A lawyer wants to look like a lawyer.
For women now, think of Jennifer Aniston, who recently went from a longer to shorter haircut and toned down her colour. We were doing a lot of very blond blonds, whereas now we’re doing more mixed tones with a bit of golden blond and a shorter length to tone it down a bit. The look is also more square with less layers.

So you started to talk about colour and the salon is called Color By NUDA. How important a role does colour play in what you do?
Colour is the anchor for everything we do. You rarely find anyone, with the exception of maybe yourself, who has no colour in their hair. But there are different degrees of colour. There’s colour that’s a rinse and adds shine to the hair. Hair that has no colour or rinse tends to look more opaque; it’s not shiny, it’s more matte, whereas a rinse can add more shine because it reflects the light better. We’ve recognized that colour is an important part of the salon and that it marries very well with the cut. And it should because most people that come in to cut their hair should equally colour their hair. It’s the biggest point of sales for us – it’s huge.

From your own experience, how has the hairdressing business changed since you opened NUDA nine years ago, or since you first started working in the industry 20 years ago?
There are a lot more hairstylists and a lot more salons are popping up. There are many more free agents and a lot more people who are unwilling to work on teams so they’re opening their own salons. Hair salons and spas used to be married together, now you have three businesses: you have spas, you have hair salons, and you have hair salons with spas. We are the third.

But NUDA isn’t a full service spa…
That will be part of our decision making process for the next 5-10 years. What services do we add on to make the salon competitive? Do we reduce prices? Do we do more promotion? Do we add on botox? Do we add body wraps? We had a shower, we took it out, do we put it back in? Do we try to get the space upstairs? These are some ideas that we’re working with.

Would you say it’s a more competitive climate in Montreal right now than nine years ago?
Way more. Montreal is turning into a huge discount market. With the net now, there are lots of discounts being offered. The net is the guru now of information. People are Googling instead of calling up salons to get information. It’s about understanding how the information is travelling and to get the information out to our customers, so engaging in things like social media and so on will be important for us moving forward.

Do you think people generally care more about price than the quality of the cut?
When we were on Greene Ave. we were anchored by people that cared more about reputation and the place they went to. Being around here, we’re seeing people who care about price as well as quality. It’s about finding a tricky balance where we don’t sell ourselves short by increasing our quality and decreasing our prices. We have to be careful because once you go that route it’s very difficult to come back. We don’t want to do fast growth, we want to do steady growth and long term growth. That said, on Greene we had a unilaterally high end price range, but now we have a junior stylist and an intermediary stylist. The price you pay comes with the experience that you’re getting. We’ve opened our price point to accept a different customer base. What we’ve learned in the last nine years is we have to change with the ever-changing market place.
How did you get into hair styling? Did you always feel you had a knack for hair?
No. I had an artistic constitution, but to be honest my brother was a stronger artist than I was. He would sketch freehand very well from memory and I used to copy great. When i was younger I would pull out pictures from magazines and put them up in my room or in frames. I kind of thought I would’ve navigated towards fashion styling, but at 21 I took a summer job at a salon and it allowed me to assist someone that I really admired. I was washing hair, passing the broom – the dirty jobs for two years, and I loved it. I worked with one of the top stylists in the city by pure accident. He passed away from AIDS, but while I worked with him, my career mimicked his career because he would do fashion shoots, hair and makeup in the salon, out of the salon, he was always travelling. He made a great living from it. My biggest concern was that I wouldn’t be able to make a living out of it; I was studying psychology at the time. It’s not something I chose, it’s something I happened to fall into. I don’t think I’m good at it, I think I’m always trying to be better at it. My philosophy is when you get something, that’s when you should stop doing it. You need to be a tough critic of yourself.

What’s your favourite and least favourite part of your job?
The running a business aspect is my least favourite, and since we’re a small business it’s very hands-on. What comes to mind as my favourite is doing your hair and makeup for your party. That was one of my favourite moments. I’ve got moments like that, that kind of work really well. You love the customer, they come with a great idea, they have the dress, and you’re motivated, and it comes together and works out really well. Then the person comes back and says it was great and you’re like okay, now I understand why I do it. Those moments are few and far between. Then you have moments when you’re late and the customer’s pissed off, and your brain’s on something else and you make a mistake. That happens and more attention is called to those things then when a moment goes right. Very few people call you back and say it was great.

But if they come back that means it was great, no?
The advantage and disadvantage of this business is you’re only as good as your last work – your history has no relevance. You tend to think that when a customer makes a decision she’ll factor in the 10 years of good service, but you piss her off in the right way once and her decision won’t be based on the history but on the last time you pissed her off.

Are there any hairdressers that inspire you?
There are a ton of people that I research. Orlando Pita is one of my favourites because he takes hair to another level. It’s all organic for him, it’s painting, it’s sculpting, it’s creating. This particular guy is always trying to push the envelope and he’s a strong, strong influence in the marketplace. Hair is a bit like fashion in the sense that some key guys put forth trends and then it gets diffused in the marketplace, or it gets tagged onto the fashion shows, and that gets diffused in the media and from there that’s where we take our inspiration.

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